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Elundris wrote:As for her being beautiful, I'm sure she is. However, she's not the only one and she's not into you. There are lots of beautiful women out there.
It doesn't matter that she's beautiful if you two don't share the same feelings towards eachother. It's the same as looking at a statuette. It may be beautiful, but it will forever be cold and unable to support you. It just exists and that's not enough. Which is why you need to search for something else.

I agree with that sentiment.

I'd add, however, that it's worth being sure someone is not into you before giving up. If you ask someone out and they say no, the only damage is to your pride. Also, while no does mean no, you can work with a little bit of yes.

My wife said no to me the first three times I asked her out. She then said yes, but on the date spent half an hour telling me why she didn't think much of me, along the lines of thinking I was an a player, chasing all the women, and so on. I told her that she didn't have me right, and said we should date again. She said not to call her at all. I said, how about I call you in two weeks? She said okay, call me in two weeks, except you won't. So I call her in two weeks, second date goes a lot better.

And yeah, we've been married twelve years now, and have three beautiful kids.

So be sure that she's definitely not interested first. But if she's definitely not interested, then move the hell on. To add to the above story, there's also half a dozen girls who I liked and dated before my wife, a couple of whom I could swear blind that I would never love anybody else. But the feeling wasn't mutual, and so I moved the hell on.

Candlewhisper Archive wrote:I agree with that sentiment.

I'd add, however, that it's worth being sure someone is not into you before giving up. If you ask someone out and they say no, the only damage is to your pride. Also, while no does mean no, you can work with a little bit of yes.

My wife said no to me the first three times I asked her out. She then said yes, but on the date spent half an hour telling me why she didn't think much of me, along the lines of thinking I was an a player, chasing all the women, and so on. I told her that she didn't have me right, and said we should date again. She said not to call her at all. I said, how about I call you in two weeks? She said okay, call me in two weeks, except you won't. So I call her in two weeks, second date goes a lot better.

And yeah, we've been married twelve years now, and have three beautiful kids.

So be sure that she's definitely not interested first. But if she's definitely not interested, then move the hell on. To add to the above story, there's also half a dozen girls who I liked and dated before my wife, a couple of whom I could swear blind that I would never love anybody else. But the feeling wasn't mutual, and so I moved the hell on.

Man, I wished it worked out for me like that. My deepest connection with my best friend happened at my most awkward time and by the time I had found the guts to ask her out she wasn’t interested and got my first no. She said it was because I wasn’t healthy or fit. I then ate better, trained and completed a marathon and asked again she still said no. I then became an “adult” house, car, great career and she still said no. Finally she said she just wasn’t physically attracted to me.

Big pride hit, but yeah once you get “the final no” (sounds creepy but obviously context is key) its honestly relieving.

The Cypher Nine wrote:Man, I wished it worked out for me like that. My deepest connection with my best friend happened at my most awkward time and by the time I had found the guts to ask her out she wasn’t interested and got my first no. She said it was because I wasn’t healthy or fit. I then ate better, trained and completed a marathon and asked again she still said no. I then became an “adult” house, car, great career and she still said no. Finally she said she just wasn’t physically attracted to me.

Big pride hit, but yeah once you get “the final no” (sounds creepy but obviously context is key) its honestly relieving.

Oof. Sometimes it works out that way.

On the upside, along the way you got fit, you got your life sorted, and you managed to escape a relationship with someone who seems altogether too demanding. :)

ON THIS DAY JULY THE FIFTEENTH, TWO-THOUSAND AND NINETEEN, the medieval monarchy and the noble houses of Portingale are hereby abolished and disbanded. In its place shall sprout a democracy. Hand in hand, the PEOPLE will build a prosperous future for Portingale.

In the meantime, an interim government has been established. The transitionary period shall last until the people’s civil rights and political freedoms are positively reformed.

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